Having a chronic illness, is honestly brutal. We are always faced with hard trials, and dealing with intense pain. It’s like constantly living in a nightmare, that you can’t wake up from. It’s extremely hurtful, and a huge letdown for someone to call those with a chronic illness lazy.
Unfortunately, it’s common to hear. A friend or a loved one may say it in a joking matter, but those words stick with you. When you’re unable to work, go to school, or attend certain events, it’s very hard to cope with. You feel a sense of guilt. Even though you know you can’t help it, that sense of feeling lazy clings to you. You feel like that’s how others already view you, so when someone jokingly says it, it’s almost is like a confirmation.
I’ve also heard plenty of people say they wish they were in my position. Where they don’t have to work. That’s one of the most frustrating things. Because a person with a chronic illness just wants a normal life. It also makes you think maybe they really don’t know me as well as I thought. With a chronic illness you are constantly hurting, going to appointments, medication, and being poked and prodded for tests. You don’t have the energy or time to work currently, even though you want to. You just want a normal life.
I’ve learned to not take anything too personally. Unfortunately, no one will understand what you’re going through, unless they experience it. But it’s our job to teach them, and educate them, on what we have to go through. It’s important that we spread awareness. And for those who are surrounded by those with a chronic illness, have compassion. We are going through a lot, and we don’t need added stress. The best thing you can do is to listen, and be a shoulder to cry on when needed. Hug that person and tell them to never give up. A Chronic illness is not a walk in the park, and we can use all the support we can get. ♡